What Do You Want?
To be happy, you must accept yourself for who you are. The trick is you have to first know who you are. Mahatma Gandhi, the great leader, said, “Truth is by nature self-evident. As soon as you remove the cobwebs of ignorance that surround it, it shines clear.” As you “remove the cobwebs of ignorance” around who you are and begin to see the truth of who you are, you will know happiness. But getting to know the truth of who you are is not always easy.
To know who you are requires that you stand in your own power. One way we give away our power to someone else is by asking the other to make our decisions. When we do this, we never have the opportunity to know what decisions we might make or what the outcome of those decisions might be. How can you ever learn to believe in and to trust yourself if you have no practice in making your own decisions? But here’s the catch.
To make a decision, you have to know what you want. A friend once told me that the difference between middle managers and high-level executives is the ability to make a decision rather than the quantity or quality of the decisions. Middle managers mull over decisions, trying to find the perfect answer; they become married to their decisions. High-level executives bring together the best of their knowledge and experience and make a decision. If it doesn’t work out, they make a different decision. What this all comes down to is trusting yourself and having the confidence that the decisions you make are good enough.
In a few paragraphs there is a process to reach happiness, but it will be difficult if you are a people pleaser, a person who never wants to make waves and will go out of their way to accommodate the other(s). People pleasers want to be liked and believe if they accommodate they will be. Unfortunately, the opposite usually happens. People tend to respect us more if we are able to express our desires honestly.
People who do not know what they want, or who always defer to others, put a terrible burden on the one who does have to make all the decisions. Happiness comes as we mature into the truth of who we are, which comes from knowing what we want and speaking our truth with grace. This does not mean we should never compromise. Certainly we should, but remember compromise comes through discussion, not dictation.
If you are in a relationship with someone who does not respect your decisions, take a closer look at the relationship. Is the other person a bully? Does he or she always have to be in control? Why are you in this relationship? Are you afraid to make your own decisions? Are you fearful of being who you truly are?
Today is the day you are going to begin to make your own decisions. Start small. Imagine you’re on a road trip with another when the two of you decide to stop and eat. The other asks you what you want, but you don’t want to look within and ask yourself that question, so you just say, “I don’t care. What do you want?” There are times it really doesn’t matter whether you go for a salad or a hamburger, and certainly there are times you need to compromise and go where the other wants. But if you are always letting the other make the decisions, you are staying in the middle management of your life instead of moving into the high executive position.
When you hear yourself saying—or even thinking—I don’t care. Stop! Take the time to look within and ask yourself what you do want. What does sound good to you? What do you really want in this moment?
When you can answer this question again and again, you will be ready to ask the big question: What is it I want for my life? Are you living your dream or the dream of the other? If you are living someone else’s dream, you will come to resent each other. You will resent the other for always making your decisions and the other will resent you for being forced to make your decisions.
Figuring out what you want—whether in the moment or for your life—takes time, energy, and courage. You need to constantly monitor yourself to learn what you do want. The more you learn about yourself, the more confidence and knowledge you will have to make your own decisions.
Yes there will be times you need to compromise. Just as there will be times you need to stand your ground. As you learn what your dream is, you may find it is different from the other’s and you need to stop and communicate your dream. You may find the other has been thinking he or she was living your dream, and maybe, just maybe the two of you together can create an even more magnificent dream. Or not. You may find you have totally different dreams for your lives, and that’s okay, because the tradeoff is that you will find something else that is magnificent.
What you will find is a beautiful, unique human being who has so much to give to the world. You will find this person because you have stopped asking the other what is right for your life and started standing in your own power.
Ask yourself what is right for your life. In listening to the answer, you will meet yourself. And in meeting the truth of who you are, you will find happiness.
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Finding that which Is Lost
Our material treasures are in our lives to help make our lives easier. When we misplace or lose something we treasure, it brings us frustration, which causes unhappiness. We become angry with ourselves for not being more careful, which adds stress to our lives.
Although we know it is not the object that brings us happiness, its loss still causes us unhappiness. Perhaps the object is a key fob that holds a special memory, or perhaps it is a key that opens the door to our home or starts our vehicle. Even when we take precautions to put our treasures in the same place so we do not mislay them, items can disappear. When they do, perhaps the following process can help.
Take a few deep breaths and relax. If you can, it is best if you sit quietly for a few moments. This is difficult to do if you have lost your car keys and are in a hurry to leave, so do your best. If you cannot calm down, use a spare pair of keys (You do have a spare set don’t you?), and then when not rushed, take the time to sit quietly and relax.
Imagine that divine cone of golden light coming from above and moving into the top of your head and all through your body. See a cord of this light coming off the base of your spine and moving deep into Mother Earth. Now imagine this light moving out from your body from the solar plexus and becoming a beacon, like a lighthouse, and circling your world. Allow the beacon to become a bubble in front of you.
As the light beacon becomes a bubble, become aware of the lost treasure in that bubble. If you do not have a sense the treasure is yet in the bubble, repeat the beacon of light and continue to move around your world in a circle until you feel the treasure is within the light. Once you feel the treasure, bring the beacon of light into the bubble.
Experience the treasure in every way you can imagine, using all of your five senses to do so. Feel the gratitude for its return. Now bring the bubble back into you, all the while feeling the gratitude for the treasure’s return.
Now get up and go about your business, telling yourself you know exactly where to look for the treasure, and giving thanks for its return. Chances are the third place you look you will find the treasure.
Before the day is over, journal as to why you lost this object. Ask yourself what the object means to you. Car keys may mean freedom. Is your freedom in jeopardy? Wedding rings may mean a need to re-examine your marriage or make changes that better serve the union. Look at the symbolism behind the item.
What if the treasure stays lost even after you have repeated this process several times? There are times a treasure may stay lost for many years and then reappear, or a treasure may stay lost for a lifetime.
I once had a dog on the run for eight months and three days before finding her. I’ve also found objects several years later. While at a girlfriend’s house, I lost one of my favorite earrings. It had been beaded by a Shawnee woman, and it was irreplaceable. About five years later, after moving to a new location, I was in the grocery store when the man I was with saw an earring hanging off the bottom of the cart. You guessed it! It was the earring I had lost years before.
Don’t ask me how this happened. The only guess I have is that the earrings had fallen into the lining of my coat and finally worked its way out years later and miles away. Perhaps it returned to me at a time I needed to believe in magical miracles.
It is possible that after doing this process a treasure will not return. When this happens, thank the treasure for the service it provided to your life, and then release it knowing that it is where it needs to be.
You can also use this process to find the happiness you lost. Simply substitute the treasured item for something that represents happiness, such as a color or sound. Do not use this process to bring a person back to you. That will backfire. You can, however, use the process to help find a lost pet. I’ve used this process to help locate both my own dog who went for an unauthorized run and the beloved pets of others. It’s a powerful process!
You can repeat this process whenever you want to find that which is lost.
Remember you should not use this process on another human being.
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Dealing with Bullies
Do you have a bully in your life? Someone who says and does things that are hurtful to you? Someone pushes you to your limits and causes you sleepless nights. Someone you may have even felt anger toward and you wish that he or she would just disappear from your life? Bullies, if we let them, cause us stress, which leads to unhappiness. Notice the words if we let them. Bullies are bullies and you aren’t going to change them, but you can change how you react to them and how they affect your life.
There are three types of bullies. One, the least dangerous of the three, is overt in name calling and pushing others around. The second type is much more dangerous because it’s more hidden, more sinister. This is the bully who pretends to be good to you, who smiles at you while engaging in name calling behind your back. And then there’s the third type of bully—and the most hurtful—who smiles and pretends to be your friend (or even someone who loves you, including a spouse), and then out of nowhere slams you for the slightest—and inappropriate— reason.
Recognize that all three bullies are coming from a place of wounding that actually has nothing to do with you. They are feeling their lives are out of control and it helps them to feel somewhat in control by thinking they can control you. These are not nice people. Wounded people who try to control others are people you do want to avoid if at all possible, but that is not always possible. So, what do you do?
First recognize the bully is a wounded person and you cannot heal their wound. Even if you could, the bully will resent you for trying. Their wound is their shield against their feelings. They are hiding behind their wound, in deep pain, but too afraid to give up their wound. What else would they have? They need to think they are in control of their lives all the while knowing their control is fake. The closer you come to penetrating into their world, or the more you see the truth of them, the more they will lash out.
Bullies are human beings. They are not evil; however, their deeds are evil. They are incapable of understanding how they cause havoc in the lives of others. The only responsibility they take for their actions is to find perverse pleasure in thinking they are justified in their actions, and you got what you deserved.
Do not take anything they say or do to you personally. This is difficult, but remember bullies are coming from their wounds, which has nothing to do with you. This is not to say they are allowed to cross your healthy boundaries. Absolutely not. It is to say to think about the battles—if any—you want to take on with a bully and choose wisely. Push back only when you think it is appropriate, and then do so with strength, but not in a personal way. They will hate you for winning, but they are also going to hate you for letting them push you around. So, choose wisely, but keep in mind that walking away from a bully is more honorable than engaging in what is a useless waste of energy. And keep reminding yourself to not take it personally.
Take a clue from the 1960s, 1967 to be exact, and zap ‘em with love. Zapping a bully with love is not meant to change them. They aren’t going to change their ways until they deal with their wound, but they may stop picking on you. Every time you think of the bully, simply say, “__Name__, I bless you and release you to
Spirit/God/Universe/Creator with love. Repeat this mantra until you feel you have released them in love. And repeat this mantra every time you think of, or see, the person.
Finally, begin writing and keep writing until you find the answer to these two questions:
- Why is this person in my life?
- What do I need to do to heal the pattern that brought a bully into my life?
As you change the pattern that brought the bully into your life, the bullying will cease. You may feel strong enough to leave the situation that puts you in the bully’s path, or the bully may leave your life. Concentrate on the healing, not on the how. Concentrate on creating a place in your life for kind, generous, supportive, loving people, and then open to receiving these people into your life.
You deserve happiness. Give it to yourself.
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Hazel’s Angels
It was in the mid-1990’s when I was attending Jean Houston’s New York Mystery School that I met Hazel and her angels. She was a lady of a certain age by then but during World War II Hazel was a young woman.
During that war, Hazel felt called to gather all the angels she could muster and send them off to help the soldiers. Hazel sent angels to soldiers on the battlefield to keep the fear away. She sent angels to the hospitals to aid the injured and angels to those who left their bodies to aid in their transition.
When the war was over, Hazel often explained, there were a lot of angels out of work. “When in need of help, call on my angels,” she would say. “They need to be useful.”
Hazel is among the angels now. I’m sure she is walking around heaven instructing her angels where to go whenever they are needed. But let’s not make Hazel do all the work. Our world needs Hazel’s angels, and she needs our help, so let’s call on them now.
Call on Hazel’s angels when you feel fear or are depressed, when you need to know you’re not alone, or when you need a helping hand. Send Hazel’s angels to loved ones in need of help to comfort them.
Let’s ask Hazel’s angels to move into the middle of wind and rain storms, hurricanes, and tornadoes and flap their wings to dissipate the heavy clouds and calm the winds. Let’s ask them to soothe the flood waters and to stop our earth from shaking from earthquakes.
Let’s ask the angles to hold their wings over the humans, animals, and winged ones to protect them from Earth’s fury and from human unkindness.
Let’s send the strongest of Hazel’s angels to work alongside the rebuilders of the homes and businesses, to give the humans courage, strength, and the materials they need.
Let’s call on Hazel’s angels to bring rain to the drought-ridden lands and sunshine to the flooded areas. Let’s send those angels with fire hoses to bring rain to all the fire-ravaged places. Let’s ask Hazel’s angels to hold all those in caught in earthquakes, to help them heal and rebuild their lives.
Let’s send the most compassionate of Hazel’s angels to comfort all who have lost loved ones in the storm-tossed weather and wars, and let’s send angels to greet all who have left their bodies to make their transition smooth and loving.
Let’s ask Hazel’s angels to watch over the people of countries lacking in freedoms and the people in fear of what may come.
Let’s ask Hazel’s angels to watch over those who lead nations so they may make decisions for the people and not their egos and to be true leaders of goodness.
Let’s close our eyes and visualize the Divine White Light of Love moving into our bodies and into our hearts so that we too may feel the love of Hazel’s angels. Then let that Light move out from our heart chakra into the world holding our planet in the Healing Light of Love.
Let’s give our love and gratitude to Hazel and her angels for all they do to help heal our world and all of us.
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Interesting Facts About this Time of Year
How well do we know history? Of all the historical facts we learn in school, following are a few I’m betting few of us learned. Some are fun facts, some are sacred. Some may make you think, some may make you say noooo way, some may make you laugh.
- For ancient Celts this was the time the Sun God traveled to the underworld to bring back the mysteries of life and those souls who were to be reborn in the coming year.
- It is the time of Winter Solstice, a time of death and rebirth, a sacred time of going inward.
- Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer got his start as an advertising gimmick for Montgomery Ward in 1903.
- Kwamzaa can be celebrated in different ways, but celebrations often include storytelling, songs, dance, and a large meal.
- Harry Truman was the first US president to celebrate Hanukkah in the White House. In 1951, he accepted a Menorah as a gift from the Prime Minister of Israel, David Ben Gurion.
- Hanukkah is the celebration of the capture of the temple in the 2nd century. The lamp was lit but there was only enough oil for one day, but a miracle happened. The lamp burned for 8 days. Today, Hanukkah is celebrated by the lighting a candle every day for 8 days.
- Santa has an official pilot’s license. issued in 1927 by the US government.
- Births celebrated on December 25th include
- Jesus of the Christian faith
- the Buddha by Buddhists in Nepal
- Krishna, the Hindu God
- Horus, and ancient Egyptian god
- Zarathusta, the Zorastrian god
- Mithra, the Persian god
- Thammuz, the Babylonian god
- Adonis, the Phoenician god
- Apollo, the Roman god
Why so many? December was a holy day to the Greeks and Romans because so many gods were said to have been born on that day.
- December 23 is the Islamic holiday that honors the birth of the Prophet Muhammad. The holy month of Ramadan can also fall in December. This is a month of fasting, introspection and prayer. At the end of Ramadan, Muslims celebrate with a 3-day festival.
- Ancient Greeks celebrated Dionysus, God of the Grape Harvest on December 21 and 25. Death and rebirth.
This list is far from complete. It’s a list to perhaps have a little fun with and perhaps to learn something new. It’s also a list to help us have a mite more understanding of why we all feel December’s energy so strongly.
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Winter Solstice Is a Time for Introspection and Awakening Light
Winter Solstice comes at me always unexpected as the days shorten and the nights lengthen. Loneliness can overtake me in the darkness, leaving me feeling empty of energy, and I must remind myself to turn the loneliness into one of deep introspection and honor the sacredness of turning inward.
As I witness the daylight move so quickly away, I want to hold onto it, and I remind myself to remember that all life is a coming and going, with a few precious moments for each experience. As the participant in life’s movement, I must stay present lest I miss the richness that presents itself in the moments of my life. I remind myself of the value in darkness as I let go of the need for more light. As the great bear in the West goes into her cave, I too am led into the cavern of my inner world.
It is within the inner world where I find both the richness and the horror that is my personal human experience that expresses itself out into the world. I come face-to-face with my beauty and my unkindness; with my success and with my faults and failures. It is where who I am and whom I want to be smack up against each other and I cannot hide the truth of my thoughts and actions from myself. It is here, in this inner world, that I am able to delve into myself and move beyond to the point of creation of that which I want to be and want to manifest within my personal world and for the greater world. It is here in my inner world that I meet my ancestors and the ancestors of all. It is here in this inner world where I soar through imagination into other worlds and gather together with beings of immense wisdom and knowledge that I then bring back to my world.
As I remember what awaits me in my inner world, I remind myself to allow the darkness to linger just a little longer in the morning and the daylight to leave at its appointed hour in the evening. As I let go and give myself over to the shortening of the days as we draw closer to Winter Solstice, a voice from my inner world gives me the gift of knowing that on the awakening of the day following Winter Solstice the light begins to lengthen as the days begin once again to grow longer.
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Phillip’s Wisdom: On Love and Fear
Each individual thought or action from the individual human creates an energetic vibration that meets with other similar energies. These energies fasten together, growing in complexity as more like energies bond.
To simplify what we are saying, take one thought by one human, The sky is beautiful. That thought has a vibrational frequency to it; let’s call it “SB.” Thought SB moves into the ethers and bonds with another thought SB. These two SBs continue to attract and be attracted to other SBs, thus the energetic field of the original SB has increased and strengthened.
What this means for the person who is having the thought SB, The sky is beautiful, is that the original energy of this one thought has increased and will manifest in two ways: (1) the energy of the original thought increases so in this case the enjoyment of the sky increases; and (2) as the thought bonds with similar thoughts, the energy increases for everyone receptive to receiving.
This is what is meant by like attracts like.
One thought bonds with a similar thought. This bonded thought bonds with other similar thoughts and so on. As you can see, the more humans who repeatedly and purposely have similar thoughts the more powerful the manifestation of the thought into third dimension reality.
To create a world of greater love for humanity and all life, including life of the planet, humans must be willing to release fear and live love. At this time on planet Earth, we see great opposition to those who practice love, living love. At times, it may even seem that fear is more powerful than love. It is not. In the most temporary of circumstances.
This is what is taking place in your world today. Because of so many individual dwelling on fear, fearful thoughts bonded with like fear thoughts are manifesting in the third-world dimension as wars, terrorism, political upheaval, murders, violence of all types, prejudices, hatred of others, harm to animals and winged ones, destruction of the planet, and a host of other non-life affirming realities.
The movement to counteract this is quieter and just as powerful. To those who are shouting, however, the quieter movement of love cannot always be heard over the dramatic roar of fear. Only those who are willing to give up the fear and have the courage to live love will experience what Love is.
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Happiness Depends on Your Signals
Imagine a grid around the world, a network of crisscrossing lines that vibrate with energy. Imagine at every juncture where the crisscrossing lines intersect, signals are sent and received. Signals reverberate out into the universe and bounce back toward the planet. What are these signals? Who sends them? Who receives them?
You are. You are the signal; you are the sender; and you are the receiver. With every emotion you experience, you send a signal. With every thought you think, you send a signal. Combine emotion with thought and the signal grows in power. You are the sender, and you are the signal. You are also the receiver. The energy you put out comes back to you. Like attracts like.
You are part of this wondrous matrix of life; you are the soil in which possibility is embedded.
Use signals to create happiness. Fine tune your signals and grow new possibilities of happiness. Here’s a way to do so—
Stand or lie outside on the ground. Look around the heavens until you find a cloud. Study this cloud for a few minutes, and then send out the signal that directs the cloud to disappear. Poof! Do not get deeply invested, just send the signal out with excitement and a clear signal. Notice the ending of the last sentence—with excitement and a clear signal. Play this game with the wonder of a child with a new toy. Enjoy yourself as you think the cloud away. See the sky empty where the cloud once was. See blue where once was white. Once you have mastered cloud transformation, see what games you can come up with to prove to yourself your creative connection to all.
And then—
On a clear night, at the darkest time, go outside. If possible, get away from city lights. Stand or lie on the ground and look toward the stars. Let your eyes soften and keep looking. Let your mind quiet and keep looking. Then you will see the grid, subtle, pulsating lines crisscrossing, intersecting, surrounding the planet, lines of vibrating energy, signals you send and you receive, and in this moment of time, the awesome wonder of your connection will fill you with a sense of humbleness, greatness, and responsibility, and a deep and astonishing joy that stretches beyond yourself, and you will be happy.
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